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"When are you chatting with the Haim sisters?" a text arrives. "My request was to ask if I can become their fourth member."

However, there remains a single issue: I also wants to be the Haims' additional sibling. And we're far from alone. Several celebrated admirers have publicly coveted the position.

The evidence suggests something is going on. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana began their path doing sets at neighborhood delis with their parents. Now they're multi-time Grammy contenders.

In the tradition of the greatest ensembles, they're a tight-knit unit. Their videos frequently depict them striding in unison down the roads of Los Angeles. During performances, they play with such unfettered exuberance you find yourself thinking, "I want to be part of that, too."

"The amount of times on tour that young girls came up to us and said, 'After your show, I got a guitar'," states Alana, the youngest of the Haim siblings. "It is the greatest compliment. That is recognition in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can motivate young girls to form a group."

"Therefore all gets an invitation to be the fourth Haim sister."

Historic Milestone

The band have called into home, where they're taking a pause after an lengthy tour in promoting their new album, I Quit.

They're right now processing the news it's been shortlisted for Best Rock Album at the Grammys – with Haim the pioneering all-woman band ever in consideration for the trophy.

"I follow the lists every year, so it almost feels like a surreal movie when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I had to call my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this right or am I dreaming'?"

The weight of the nomination isn't lost on the sisters.

"We truly set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a huge milestone," continues Alana. "Yet we're just thankful for the women that came before us."

Heartbreak and Candor

The record emerged from a time of emotional upheaval. All three sisters were single, and the music explores that odd in-between place where you're glad to be free, but not quite ready to let go.

The lyrics detail departures and partings. The sisters desire love, but not the relationships they've had. You can hear them working out in the moment who they are becoming.

"I adore way of putting it, yes," responds Danielle. "I Quit is kind of like a personal statement. You have to consciously practice ignoring the outside opinions and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Refinement of Style

That developed confidence called for a fresh approach – more unpolished and powerful than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who worked on producing the album, that began with the drum sound.

"Percussion is such a detailed thing, and I am so passionate about it," she states.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our biography," jokes Alana. "I've said it, our albums don't start until we find the ideal drum sound."

Experiences and Shared Humor

The trio's openness shaped the album's rollout, where the sisters shared some of their dating tales.

One man left Este over a health concern. Alana told a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a friendly slap at midnight.

"During these breakups, you just feel like there's no hope," says Alana. "Thus to be able to share those stories and have them tell you even crazier stories, it's incredible."

A Confident Legacy

One can easily sense a shift in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their standing in the industry.

They're major draws, with chart-topping albums and an international audience.

Yet the sister act will consistently be their top commitment.

"We have been performing since I was four," says Alana. "It feels as if no other path that we were meant to do. And I'm really grateful we've gotten here and we're still going strong."